Say No & Find 5 Benefits That Strengthen Relationships by Using Boundaries
By Paula Elder
Time management tips clear paths for you to live your best life. But of
course, demands and distractions crop up every day. Where are your efforts to
keep on track successful? Where do they fall short?
If you resist saying no to important people in your life, chances are you
experience overwhelm. And this generates enormous stress! Are you trying to
protect an important relationship by saying yes when you want to say no? If so,
there's good news. Learning when and how to say no, through boundaries, will
actually help make good relationships better!
The Power of No
Here's a fresh approach to finding time by setting boundaries. Being ready,
willing and able to protect your time by saying no to unwanted demands and
distractions strengthens your relationships in these 5 ways:
- Saying no gives meaning to your yes. It is authentic, and people
can trust it. You clarify who you are, and demonstrate that you respect
yourself and your time.
- Keeping your schedule manageable by saying no builds trust. You
simply can't honor all your commitments if you never say no. People trust
you when your actions match your words. The more positive control you exert
over your time, the more your reliability increases.
- Being authentic encourages authenticity in others. By setting
boundaries, you encourage others to clarify their priorities, in turn.
Although this may be challenging at first, with practice, you learn how to
negotiate to mutual satisfaction. This is one of the most important
- Setting limits builds healthy boundaries. In the same way that
muscles need to encounter resistance in order to become strong, a
relationship needs to encounter its "edges" to develop maturity and depth.
- You bring a healthier, happier you to your relationships. By
assuming ownership of your time, you relate to others with openness, not
needless stress, resentment and exhaustion.
Saying no is a healthy risk. You need to know that your relationships will
thrive as you relate assertively and honestly. Over time, viable relationships
respond positively to fair boundaries, presented thoughtfully. And you will
experience the satisfaction of knowing that you are creating new opportunities
for your relationships as well as your time!
You can ask for the time and space you need, and get it, too! The
Finding Time Relationship Boundary Template offers 26 sequential steps, in a
workbook format, to help you negotiate your way to a stronger self and
stronger relationships! Learn how 24 hours really can be enough! To take
your next step, visit